Ignore hate, or engage it?

I am aware of a few people who dislike the new political atmosphere. The one where it isn’t based on a religious text. The idea that others don’t follow their religions, or those that don’t follow it the way they do seems to upset them.

However, I’ve also notice they are being mostly silent about it. Is this like some atheists not mentioning the fact that they are atheists, or is it because they are afraid of the repercussions? Such as being paired with those that were against interracial marriage.

I’ve seen several people making the statement that if they notice anyone hating “LOVE” they will unfriend them. I can understand the sentiment, as I’ve seen a few things that have made my blood boil. And I can’t seem make a rationalized idea as to why I would want anyone to live a life that wasn’t their own choosing. It’s theirs after all, and I don’t get a say in what another does. But is it best to ignore ignorance, or is it better to engage it?

I’ve lived my life with the notion that life is too short to deal with idiots and jerks. But was that right? Should I not try to understand why another person feels differently than I do? Usually it’s an emotional reason, as I tend to ignore my own emotions when it comes to most matters. But if I let myself feel, I can usually understand why a person would have a different opinion.

In the end, I think it is better to be open to those who are not. If they don’t want to talk with you, fine, that’s their choice. But I think to be the better person is to listen to a side you don’t agree with. Maybe you’ll learn something, even if it is how to argue your side better.

What I’ve published

Poetry

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The Outsider Series

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Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

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Update: 10 pages edited of the new book. I’ve reached the end of where I left off. Looks like I’ll be writing again tomorrow.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.

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YAY MARRIAGE

I’m very happy. America has finally decided that people who love the same gender can get married legally. That in itself seems like a rather wonderful thing. It’s a step in the right direction, because to me it means it gives the individual more rights over their own life.

However I worry things like this, and the confederate flag debacle lead us to distraction. Are we no longer worried about what is in the TPP? Do we no longer care that there are discussions about limiting access to the internet? My worry is that people in power use such things to distract us from matters they deem more important.

Matters again like the TPP. Where there is very little in the way written about trade, and much more written about how to control the populace. We don’t have access to the entirety of what is planned, however we do have some idea thanks to the leaks from brave individuals.

Be happy. Allowing gender not to be important in deciding who can marry who is wonderful. But do not allow it to distract you from the chains that they try to lay upon you. Vigilance is key at this point, but if it goes on much longer even vigilance won’t protect you. They will bind you tightly, and take away anything they deem necessary.

What I’ve published

Poetry

poems_front2

The Outsider Series

Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider SeriesPageflex Persona [document: PRS0000039_00072]

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Or you can help me out on Patreon. Again, thank you. https://www.patreon.com/StevenOaks

Update: About to make pancakes. Haven’t eaten yet, but I probably should.

“If I get married, I want to be very married.”
― Audrey Hepburn

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Timeliness

Timeliness to me is being on time, or even slightly early. Tardiness is being there later than you stated. That to me is a type of lie. I cannot stand lies, so therefore I cannot stand people who are late. If is due to miscommunication I of course will forgive, but if is due to your misunderstanding what it means to be on time, I will not. Lets say for example I heard you say that you will be at a certain place at a certain time, and I was to wait for you there. If you arrive an hour later I will be very displeased. I have forgiven my closest friend who I named as my best-man when I married my now ex-wife for arriving a half hour late. We were meant to carpool to the ceremony’s location, but he was having trouble getting up and needed his morning coffee and cigarette before leaving his apartment. His response to me being upset at him being late was, “You should know me well enough by now that I am never on time. You should have told me to be here earlier than you needed me here.” This did not, and still does not, sit well with me. Luckily I have overcome my anger at that incident and we are still as close, if not closer. It seems the vast majority of people are alright with being late, but I just do not get that. When you say you will do something, you must do it, or be called a liar. If there are extenuating circumstances I will understand, but I do not believe the need to smoke a cigarette or have a cup of coffee is one. Vehicle issues, or traffic certainly are causes. Of course he has cause for being upset with me as I dated his sister for a short time. Again luckily we were both able to get over our own issues. In retrospect it is a very funny story, at least for me, to tell. But I will tell you right then I was as angry as I have ever been. I would call that day one of the most important days in a persons life, binding yourself to another, and it should be a day when you should take special care to arrive on time. Sadly it did not last as our son we had years later passed away, and the grief drove us apart. We are still friends, but she now lives in another country now and has a beautiful little baby girl. And of course now I’m rambling, so I shall end this saying, when you make a promise, please keep it.

Update – 2,000 more words written, the book nears completion, as least insofar as a first draft. Tired.

Punctuality is the politeness of kings – Louis XVIII

– Steven Oaks