How many sides do you have? Do you show only once facet to those at work, and when with friends another? Do you have conflicting ideas of love and hate inside your own head? Are we more complicated than we’ll ever know, and can only be told that we behave differently at times by close friends?
I’m going to be vague here. I’ve no wish to out anyone in particular, but I will be pulling on my experiences while I try to explain what I mean.
I’ve known someone for a number of years. I’ve seen them have so much compassion that they weep at the thought of another being harmed. However they take sides very easily. If a group of people is ever seen as though they have harmed another, no matter how loving they are, they will be hated by this person. Hate so furious that they wish death upon those they despise.
As an example, they would hate the nation of Israel because they appear to be harming those in Palestine. They will side with the Palestinians forever because in their mind it is the Israelite’s fault for starting it. However I know it is because she cares for people. She just wants justice, as she sees it. However she only looks at it from one viewpoint, always.
The same thing with feminism. I know she seeks equality, but she blame males for troubles alone. It is a difficult contradiction to say you want equality, while still dragging down another. That’s a very Harrison Bergeron thing to do. Drag down those on top so that we might all be equal. How about instead we give equal opportunity to people, no matter their gender, race, or religion?
Not in the ‘Equal Opportunity’ that certain laws have been enacted to make sure companies hire so many people of a certain race, but in the sense that each of us feel that we all have a shot at positions, if only we have what they are looking for.
A main source of our current strife is that we are impatient. If we do not see change immediately, we cry out that the system is broken, and we must enact laws. But even in my life time I have seen an easing in the minds of the majority. No longer do I expect racism, or sexism. When it happens I find it strange, and almost from another era. We are growing as a people. But it will take time.
We must be able to look at another and say, ‘Hey, that’s just another person. I wonder how they think about the world,’ and not be troubled when they say something that we don’t believe. It has been human nature to fear differences, be it skin color, religion, or even those of different gender or gender identities. It made sense in a time when we were all fighting for survival in our small tribes. You could trust a neighbouring tribe, but it would be a risk.
Now we are growing into a worldwide tribe. Interconnected via the internet and easy communication. We still make our own little tribes, but we call them friends now. You do not have to expose your innermost secrets to everyone, but neither should you fear you’ll be hated because of your beliefs.
Fear and hate are the enemy. We use them because we feel we must protect ourselves from some enemy. But there are so few whom are your enemy. If you take the time you will see that there are very few people who do anything because they want to harm another. They may do evil things, but it’s because there is a belief they are doing good.
While there are laws that hinder those who are gay, or of different religions, I know they were enacted because those who wrote them think it’s for the greater good. Either that or they are psychopaths who haven’t learned compassion. There are so few of those types of psychopaths though I tend to believe the majority have the best of intentions in their hearts. But it has been said, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Just as good intentioned as the laws that outlaw certain types of speech, or force people to hire certain people. All good intentioned, but flawed because they do not allow people to be themselves.
You have every right to be an asshole. However, I’m not suggesting you should be, but it is your choice. We have every right to ignore you though. Love is the only unifying thing, hate pushes out and makes you weaker.
So look to those around you. Understand they are different. No person sees the world as you do, and that is good. Only in our diversity will be ever grow into something more. If we hold on to our hatreds we only make ourselves hated. Love is not as easy as hate, but I assure you the benefits outweigh the effort.
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Update – Cold pizza and earl grey for breakfast. I edited and wrote a bit in my latest novel, and it seems I haven’t lost any ability. If anything it seems it has expanded. Probably in thanks to my near constant communication with others at work.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.
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