Love and Hate

How many sides do you have? Do you show only once facet to those at work, and when with friends another? Do you have conflicting ideas of love and hate inside your own head? Are we more complicated than we’ll ever know, and can only be told that we behave differently at times by close friends?

I’m going to be vague here. I’ve no wish to out anyone in particular, but I will be pulling on my experiences while I try to explain what I mean.

I’ve known someone for a number of years. I’ve seen them have so much compassion that they weep at the thought of another being harmed. However they take sides very easily. If a group of people is ever seen as though they have harmed another, no matter how loving they are, they will be hated by this person. Hate so furious that they wish death upon those they despise.

As an example, they would hate the nation of Israel because they appear to be harming those in Palestine. They will side with the Palestinians forever because in their mind it is the Israelite’s fault for starting it. However I know it is because she cares for people. She just wants justice, as she sees it. However she only looks at it from one viewpoint, always.

The same thing with feminism. I know she seeks equality, but she blame males for troubles alone. It is a difficult contradiction to say you want equality, while still dragging down another. That’s a very Harrison Bergeron thing to do. Drag down those on top so that we might all be equal. How about instead we give equal opportunity to people, no matter their gender, race, or religion?

Not in the ‘Equal Opportunity’ that certain laws have been enacted to make sure companies hire so many people of a certain race, but in the sense that each of us feel that we all have a shot at positions, if only we have what they are looking for.

A main source of our current strife is that we are impatient. If we do not see change immediately, we cry out that the system is broken, and we must enact laws. But even in my life time I have seen an easing in the minds of the majority. No longer do I expect racism, or sexism. When it happens I find it strange, and almost from another era. We are growing as a people. But it will take time.

We must be able to look at another and say, ‘Hey, that’s just another person. I wonder how they think about the world,’ and not be troubled when they say something that we don’t believe. It has been human nature to fear differences, be it skin color, religion, or even those of different gender or gender identities. It made sense in a time when we were all fighting for survival in our small tribes. You could trust a neighbouring tribe, but it would be a risk.

Now we are growing into a worldwide tribe. Interconnected via the internet and easy communication. We still make our own little tribes, but we call them friends now. You do not have to expose your innermost secrets to everyone, but neither should you fear you’ll be hated because of your beliefs.

Fear and hate are the enemy. We use them because we feel we must protect ourselves from some enemy. But there are so few whom are your enemy. If you take the time you will see that there are very few people who do anything because they want to harm another. They may do evil things, but it’s because there is a belief they are doing good.

While there are laws that hinder those who are gay, or of different religions, I know they were enacted because those who wrote them think it’s for the greater good. Either that or they are psychopaths who haven’t learned compassion. There are so few of those types of psychopaths though I tend to believe the majority have the best of intentions in their hearts. But it has been said, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Just as good intentioned as the laws that outlaw certain types of speech, or force people to hire certain people. All good intentioned, but flawed because they do not allow people to be themselves.

You have every right to be an asshole. However, I’m not suggesting you should be, but it is your choice. We have every right to ignore you though. Love is the only unifying thing, hate pushes out and makes you weaker.

So look to those around you. Understand they are different. No person sees the world as you do, and that is good. Only in our diversity will be ever grow into something more. If we hold on to our hatreds we only make ourselves hated. Love is not as easy as hate, but I assure you the benefits outweigh the effort.

 

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What I’ve published

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – Cold pizza and earl grey for breakfast. I edited and wrote a bit in my latest novel, and it seems I haven’t lost any ability. If anything it seems it has expanded. Probably in thanks to my near constant communication with others at work.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.

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A bit of Clarification

As much as I hate calling in sick, I did so today. I believe I have bitten my tongue at some point over the weekend, and now only with large amounts of pain am I able to speak. Since my job involves speaking, I felt I should rest my poor ragged tongue in hopes that it will be less painful when next I must return.

Today allow me to clarify what you can do to help me. I am utilizing Patreon so that I might continue to bring you these daily posts, and of course so that I can have the time I need to continue to write my novels. You need not donate at any level that you are uncomfortable with. Perhaps it is a bit unclear as to how often I will ask to draw from you these donations. I think I shall reduce it to once a week. So if you sign up for merely a dollar per blog post, in a month you should only be gifting me four dollars. That amount would be gladly accepted. If enough people can do that, it would be enough for me to continue.

You are of course welcome to donate more, so that I might be able to eat things besides ramen and oatmeal, but you are under no obligation to even do that. I will not put any of these posts behind a pay wall. This blog shall always be free to anyone who wishes to read it, I’m just asking for a little help if you are willing.

The higher donations levels have rewards however.

For $30.00 per blog post, you would be given the ability to choose a topic for me to write about in a week. I will make one post where I delve deeply into said topic, and post as insightfully as I can. This will be available to four people in a month.  Remember this is a payment that will likely be drawn upon four times in a month,  but you can set a maximum amount to donate in a month.

For $35.00 per blog post you will receive a signed copy of my first book Deathship. I will have an exclusive copy printed especially for you, and then I’ll sign it. It can take up to 3 to 4 weeks for it to be delivered because of this.

And now for the most exclusive option you could choose. For $750 per blog post you’ll have the right to ask me to write a story for you. Any style or genre you wish, and I’ll begin working on it right away. In three months time I’ll have the rough draft completed, and you’ll be the first to read it. Only three people a year can ask this of me, so first come first serve. And as an added bonus, if you wish to work with me on editing said draft, you will become the co-author of this book when it is published.

If you do happen to donate at these higher levels you are under no obligation to do anything if you do not desire. Just communicate your desires, and I’ll gladly accept. Only with your support can we make this happen. I look forward to bringing you new and exciting things in the future.

 

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What I’ve published

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – A breakfast of oatmeal, and a hot cup of earl grey. I worked on the latest Outsider book again today. I received several pages of edits, and I reviewed and fixed what needed to be. Things are pushing forward.

“Be thankful for the beautiful moment.
Be thankful for the gift of today.
Be thankful for how far you have reached.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

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Become my Patrons on Patreon!

Today I launch my Patreon page. I’ve been a follower of Pomlamoose for a number of years, and when I learned they are responsible for Patreon I thought, I could put myself on there as well.

What Patreon is, if you don’t know, is a place where creators can allow you to directly support them. Some of my favorite artists and even podcasters have their own page.

If you like what I write here on the blog, or if you just want to help out while I continue to write more books, please give the page a look. You can donate as little, or as much as you want. I even have rewards set up for you. Just decide how much you want to donate for each blog post I do here, and you’re set. You can even set up a maximum amount to spend in a month, so if I’m feeling over ambitious, you won’t pay any more than you expect.

Here is the link for you, and again, thank you. https://www.patreon.com/StevenOaks

Again massive thanks to all of you who continue to stick with me as I continue to transform my life. And as a special thanks, I can even share a little bit of the first draft of the latests Outsider series cover art. It’s not finished, and this really is only the background, but I’m already impressed.

 

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What I’ve Written

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – Worked Saturday, hence no post. Also I’ve bitten my tongue rather severely, so I’m not sure how well talking is going to work out the next few days.

“Receiving, gratitude, and generosity all grow together.”
― Mark V. Ewert

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Putting Yourself Out There

For many years I hid myself away behind a stoic front. I let very few people in, and was satisfied with having the few people who made time for me around. I spent a year locked away in near isolation, and had limited conversations over that time, and was not distressed by it. Simply being alone did not bother me overly much, though I did begin to feel the desire for human contact as the months progressed.

Realizing that even I, the self-proclaimed introvert, needed to have others around, I leapt at the opportunity to show myself to those around me when I started this new job. I have not felt more alive and happy in my entire life. Yes I may be unusual, or even eccentric in the way I express myself, but I have not felt shunned, or hated as I’ve opened up.

Perhaps it’s the people I work with. A group with a wide swath of backgrounds, and some with foreign ideas, or beliefs that I do not hold. And yet we all have meshed as a group, and being brought over to merge even further with those who have come before, we all have found that to be here is to grow even closer with those around.

Everyone I’ve met in my life, since I’ve opened myself up, genuinely seem to be caring, and good people. Perhaps it was my own desire to protect myself from others that lead me to believe there were evil and cruel people in this world. Or perhaps I’ve stumbled upon a job where there are no bad apples. No persons who live only to push forward their agendas with no care for others.

Of course I could just be smitten, as often two people are in the beginning of a relationship. As time passes we may find our differences intolerable, and that may lead to conflict. However, at this time I cannot see a place with better people to work with than where I am now.

What I’ve Written

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – I’ve yet to eat any breakfast, and have only taken the smallest of sips from my earl grey tea. The hunger builds, so I think I shall make do with the cold pizza that I did not finish last night. Life carries the burden of need, but the need can give you the coffers to live.

“Deep down, I’m an introvert. However, high up, I’m an extrovert.”
― Jarod Kintz

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The self grows

This week was a difficult week for me and for my classmates. We were finally brought to our new place of work after several weeks of training. The new facility is beautiful, though it continues to be worked on. Some of us had doubts if we were ready, and the first day it showed.

We had many resources to call upon, but when faced with a new situation that we weren’t ready for, some of us froze up, and were unable to remember what the next step should be. It will come in time, and for right now we are not judged harshly for our slow pace, and our self-doubt.

I sat with a few people this week, and some had it down pat, while others thought they didn’t, but as long as they remained calm they were able to complete the assigned task without too much trouble.

The majority have done jobs like this in the past, but when thrust into a new genre within these types of jobs we nevertheless grow nervous. I’m glad I could be there for my co-workers, as I seem to be able to grasp the new system and reason behind our actions quicker than most. I made myself as available to them as I could, while I too got used to the situation.

I too grow nervous over such things, and I was able to call upon those who have been there longer than I. My nerves were settled rapidly, and I gained new insight into not only myself, but what I want to do here. We shall see in time if I am able to accomplish this goal, but I have the backing of several there, and the drive to succeed.

I may arrive earlier this coming Monday to push forward my plan, and I grow excited by the possibilities. In the end I want to be there for those who need me. I enjoy my co-workers, and I’ve found that I no longer am filled with anxiety when I interact with those around me. Perhaps I’ve grown out of my introverted phase and am now becoming extroverted. It matches up better with my personality anyway, so I’m happy to see this change and growth in myself.

The year of spending my days alone delving deeply into my own mind has shown me many things, and I no longer fear that I will shame myself with some mistake in my speech. I know I will mess up, but we learn from these mistakes, and others will forgive, if they are worthy of being friends or people who you want to spend time with. So far I’m very happy with those who have made this journey with me, and I wish to be there to see them grow into confident and competent employees. And I hope to be apart of that journey.

What I’ve Written

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – Cold pizza for breakfast, a thing I enjoy entirely too much, and work being done creating a work of literature for an evening with friends this weekend. Sadly time is in short supply when it comes to reviewing or writing anything else yet, but I will be making the time soon.

“…because I rant not, neither rave of what I feel, can you be so shallow as to dream that I feel nothing? ”
― R.D. Blackmore

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Watching Documentaries

Let’s see, what shall I write about today? Perhaps another long diatribe about nothing, or perhaps I’ll want to discuss morality again. I’m unsure, so I think I’ll let this post be a free form thing.

Last weekend I watched a documentary about a cult leader, and it was interesting. Today I’ve watched a few documentaries about things. The first was about Studio Ghibli, which I cried many tears while watching it. I have a huge love for all those films, and I wish to watch more from them, but they are dis-banning, or have said they were. I’m not up to date about such things.

The second was about a Japanese delivery company, which felt like a video you would show to new hires. I wasn’t enthralled, but it wasn’t horrible.

Now I’m watching called Relics: Einstein’s Brain, from 1994. A Japanese man travels to America to look at Einstein’s brain, and goes through a rough journey throughout, but eventually discovers it is in possession by a single individual. I can’t tell if it’s real or not, because the Japanese man seems a little off. However I am entirely entertained.

I mostly watch this while I play Mah-jong or doing jigsaw puzzles. Is it fun? Sure… but am I learning anything? I’m not sure. Perhaps I’m just seeing how strange people can be. I of course have my own unusual traits, but it’s so weird how people can be so easily influenced by a single individual. We are all just collections of atoms that somehow try to explain themselves. It really is quite fascinating.

Perhaps one day I’ll be so influential others will want to study me, though I highly doubt it. But then again I don’t think any of those who these documentaries have been made about would consider themselves worthy of such treatment. Then again those who run cults probably thought of themselves highly.

As for the third book in Outsider series, one of the editors has been reading it, and has made some changes. It comes closer to being finished each day, but it is very slow going.

What I’ve Written

poems_front2Deatship - Book 1 of the Outsider SeriesStarship - Book 2 of the Outsider Series

Link to my author page on Amazon – hhttp://www.amazon.com/Steven-Oaks/e/B00MEGSEZ6

Link to the Deathship book in the CreateSpace store – https://www.createspace.com/5023771

Update – I ate an entire large pizza last night, again, so no pancakes for me this morning. I’ve eaten nothing yet, nor have I drank anything. Perhaps it’s time I remedy that.

“The best documentaries are independent. They don’t exist to serve interests, philanthropic or otherwise.”
― Nick Fraser

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