Who are you to your friends? Are you someone they can come to for advice, or are you a good listener? If you aren’t, then maybe you are amusing in some fashion. Why do we keep the people we do close? Is there something that can be gained by continued closeness? I’ve spoken about how I think having others to talk openly about ideas helps us become better people, but is there more to it than that? While having a person there ready to listen, and respond in kind is nice, there is indeed more. If you are in trouble, and talking doesn’t help, they should be there to assist you in times of need. I’m not saying they should spend all their time or money to ensure that you can get back on your feet, but they should be able to be relied upon to offer a hand. If you lose your home, or job, they might offer you a place to stay. Do not over stay your welcome however. We are all individuals with our own lives. Even if you are the closest of friends there has to be a time when you leave. You cannot become the bum on the couch, because then you might not be friends anymore. If you truly consider another a friend you will not strain the relationship, even if it causes you detriment. You then waste the time you have spent together simply to ensure your own survival. There is more to this life than your happiness, and you should recognize it. Other people have great value, but do not rely on them over-much. In the end you are solely responsible for your life, just as they are for their own. Do not try to trap them into something they would not do on their own. Even offering words like “Just tell me when you want me to leave” would not help, as politeness seems to override the desire to tell another they have over stayed their welcome. It is not a crime, nor should it be, to ask too much of another and receive it. However it is rude, and manipulative. Luckily with the few friends I have we have been able to become honest with each other. It may seem rude to outsiders, but when we grow agitated with each other we let each other know. I suppose then honesty is the best policy. I try very hard not to ask anyone to do anything, but when I wrote my book I informed them I would be happy if they read it. Perhaps it was a polite way of begging for their assistance. I hope they enjoyed the book, though only a few have made it through completely as of yet. Those who have said they enjoy it, but it is hard to tell if that is not just polite words. I wish I had a bit more feedback from those who have read it, but I suppose even saying this is begging for attention. I guess I will rely on honesty at this point. I would appreciate it if people would review my book. I want to know if I have made any errors, and if so I will correct them. If you don’t like the book, that is fine, it may not be for everyone. The perspective is first person, by an individual who is socially awkward, and that may not be everyone’s cup of tea. However if you find something amiss, or if you find it well written, I would appreciate a review. I’m editing the second book, and if there are any pointers you might have I would like to incorporate them now before I publish it. Thank you.
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Link to my book in the Amazon store – http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00ME0U00Y
Update – Several more pages edited of the second book, by me. The editor is very busy with work right now, and it seems I will have to be patient. As luck would have it though I was able to spend an enjoyable evening with another friend, and we had a good time. Watching anime, even the horrible ones we sometimes select, brings us amusement.
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
― Jon Katz
– Steven Oaks
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